One of the biggest challenges I have had over the last 16 months since we decided to begin this journey in to starting a new church is finding consistency. Not so much in regard to accomplishing goals for The Grove but in regard to life in general. I have always been one who was somewhat cool with the general mystery and unsteadiness that life can throw your way, especially when I’m in control
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The last year for us, my family that is, has been really hard though. I would simply say that in starting a new church and living in a world that I have no control over has been tough. Several ways this has affected us are:
- financially.
- relationally.
- our time.
- our kids.
- and the list could go on.
In actuality, I would tell you that specifically for Susan and I we have been tested more in the last few months than ever before in our relationship. I know for a fact that there have been days when my lovely and quite loving wife was ready to see me “move on down the road.” I share this to say we aren’t perfect and we have struggles and just because we do church work doesn’t mean that we haven’t had pretty tough moments together. It’s been really hard.
Someone recently told me that starting a new church would be the most difficult on our family over anything else. And this is true….and now find myself telling other people the same thing who are considering starting a new church.
The end of this week, the 24th to be exact marks the official ten year anniversary for my marriage to this beautiful woman that graces my life. Years ago, I anticipated taking some money from a certain account that is now non-existent (eating was more important) and purchasing my beautiful young bride a nice diamond anniversary ring. I was so excited about this.
Instead, my wife got a hair dryer that she wanted. I got a good deal, I bought it on ebay. But buying that hair dryer was one of the most difficult things I have ever done. Not because I didn’t want to buy one, I mean I would’ve rather bought a diamond, but because this was never part of my plan. Quite possibly that hair dryer will even make things a little bit tighter around our house this month. But, it’s worth it. You can’t put a price tag on our relationship. Period.
Now, don’t hear what I am not saying, I’m not poormouthing. The road of sacrifice is the one we chose.
I am saying that I love my wife and I know that said hair dryer will be perfectly acceptable to her because she knows my heart. My heart was for the nicest diamond I could give her, the gift was a hair dryer. There is so much more I could say about this but these things would belabor the point…
What matters is this. Ten years ago the most amazingly beautiful woman I have ever known gave me a shot. For the last ten years she has continued to say yes to me again and again. She has been the most consistent thing in my life and in the life of our kids and I can’t believe the blessing she has been to me. I am so honored to have married this kind, sweet, caring and loving little lady. There is no doubt in my mind that without her, I would have never become the man I have and I also wouldn’t know the two best and most beautiful little girls in the world! I am so thankful!
Susan- thank you so much for saying I do, year after year. I know that it hasn’t been the easiest journey you’ve been on, but I can’t imagine what my life would be like without my best friend. You are amazing and each day of the week you surprise me, challenge me and encourage me to risk it all for something so much bigger than ourselves and I am so thankful.
I love you and I owe you a diamond